Should I mail a TY with a pic to people who did NOT give us gifts?

It feels kind of strange to ignore thier presence at the wedding even if they did not give a gift.
We have two bridal party members who did not give us gifts...one is planning something for us though...
but I figured I should send them all pictures right?

Other guests who did not give gifts, I'm on the fence about. Maybe if they get a card like "THank you for coming to our wedding!" with no mention fo the gift...they'll realize they did n't give us anything!



It's no big deal honestly...but has anyone else had this minor delema?

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A believe the same thing happened to my SIL at her wedding and she gave them a thank you, thanking the people for coming to her wedding.

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Send a Thank You thanking them for for shring your day!

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I sent a thank you to everyone for being there who was there - gift or no gift.
just don't say "thank you for the generous gift"

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I would send a thank you. Other than that it sounds like your only thanking people who gave you something.

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I would send a thank you also.

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i sent thank yous to people who did not give gifts, but sent a scanned pic instead of a professional pic. you really cant tell the difference, but i wanted to save the professional ones. i just thanked them for sharing in our day.

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Posted by teach2be

I would send a thank you. Other than that it sounds like your only thanking people who gave you something.

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I sent one to a friend that said a gift was coming. I didn't want it to seem like a reminder that she said she'd give us somrthing, but I wanted to thank her for coming & give her the same picture everyone else got.

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I would definately send them a Thank You, for being there.

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This happened at my wedding.. I got a few with no gifts. Sent them the TY w/ Pict anyway, thanking them for sharing in our day...
A few of them sent gifts after they got their TY.. they must have realized they forgot to give us a gift!

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I'm going to risk the scrutiny, but I've posted this before. I had 6 people (2 couples, 2 singles) come to my wedding, no gift, NO card! I don't care about the gift, truly I don't but not to spend $1.50 (at a 1/2 off place) and 3 minutes to pick out a card to wish us well?? That's unacceptable to me and therefore I did not send TY's to these people. My TY was the 4 course meal and open bar that they enjoyed at the wedding! Sorry for being so cynical.

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Send a thank you. You invited them to celebrate not for the gift. Its rude not to send a thank you. A wedding is about that a wedding

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I had someone a "relative" form my DH's side not RSVP and then the day before the wedding show up. (he was from out of town) He b!tched how he wanted to come to the wedding and didn't get an invitation...so I added him last minute. The day of the wedding he shows up in black silk "pajamas" and doesn't give a gift....I think you know if I sent him a TY or not....

Geez some people!!!

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I have this issue with my sisters (2) and brother. I'm kind of hurt that none of them gave even a card at the wedding and am thinking I might not send them a card. But my wound is still fresh so we'll see how I feel when it comes time to send out the thank you's.

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I didn't send thank yous to people that didn't give a gift. As a friend so eloquently put it "What am I thanking them for? Letting me buy them dinner?"

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I would send them thank you for sharing the day with you. It still blows my mind how someone could show up at a wedding without even giving the bride and groom a card wishing then well.

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Posted by BCTM33

I didn't send thank yous to people that didn't give a gift. As a friend so eloquently put it "What am I thanking them for? Letting me buy them dinner?"

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I sent a thank you to everyone who came and shared the day with me, whether they brought a gift or not. Then, I also sent the photo thank yous to people who didn't come but sent a gift.

Message edited 3/22/2005 12:11:58 PM.

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Posted by halloweenbride04

I'm going to risk the scrutiny, but I've posted this before. I had 6 people (2 couples, 2 singles) come to my wedding, no gift, NO card! I don't care about the gift, truly I don't but not to spend $1.50 (at a 1/2 off place) and 3 minutes to pick out a card to wish us well?? That's unacceptable to me and therefore I did not send TY's to these people. My TY was the 4 course meal and open bar that they enjoyed at the wedding! Sorry for being so cynical.

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Posted by kel2004

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Posted by BCTM33

I didn't send thank yous to people that didn't give a gift. As a friend so eloquently put it "What am I thanking them for? Letting me buy them dinner?"

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I totally agree!

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We sent a TY to everyone that came regardless. They still took the time to be with us and that is what it is supposed to be all about. Not the gift. IMO!!

Don't get me wrong, it did still piss me off But, what can you do

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I always am on the other side of most people on this matter...but i had at least 9 people show up at my wedding with no gift or card. I did not send any of them a thank you card....i felt the free dinner, dancing, favor and drinks was my thank you for sharing in my day with us.

I actually did get a card with no gift in it and sent that person a thank you card.

It boggles my mind how someone goes to someones wedding and does not give the couple even a card!!! You can get them for 99 cents these days. And with the exception of one, all of them are pretty well off people.

I know my mom taught me not to stoop to other peoples levels...but you get what you give in my book.

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What I love, is writting thank yous and trying to sound gracious...

I had a family of three, where two of them showed up (and I know they are well off)...Aunt of the groom and 1st cousin ...with $100. They did travel out of state and they are normally reclusive...and of course anything is a gift and welcomed. But I didn't write "thank you for your GENEROUS gift" I just wrote "Thank you for your gift and for traveling to share our day with us.."
I have trouble being disengenuious in writing.

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i had 2 people who didn't give gifts, i didn't send a thank you to them.