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amy&anthony
Gabes 1st modeling job! :)
Member since 1/05 1093 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/10/2005 11:30 PM
Wed. Location:
who knows theyre all nice!
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I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Well, my FH came in last night, I didnt even get a kiss and he laid down in bed next to me to go to sleep.... I asked him what was wrong as he spilled his guts... He said that I told you I wanted to move in together first... I didnt want to spend so much on a wedding etc!!
Ummm hello... where was I when he was telling me these things.. I think he was thinking them but never told me.. I thought we decided to live with our parents to have a nice wedding and then move out. His exact words were I want what you want, I want you to be happy.. I know you want a big wedding of your dreams.. bla bla bla...
So anyway... After a long discussion.. I may be giving up my deposit at the JT  and we will move in together 3/1 and end up having a smaller wedding somewhere upstate by my lake house :(
I am totally sad.. but I kind of agree about the $$, Im embarrassed b/c the WHOLE world knows the date and the place already.... I just bought a WHOLE BUNCH of save the dates YESTERDAY!! :( SO sad :(
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Crismicka
Expecting TWINS!
Member since 4/04 2138 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/22/2004 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
timberpoint country club
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
 I am so sorry! Maybe you guys can still work things out! 
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Posted 2/10/05 7:36 AM
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ShelliNMando
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Member since 10/04 269 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/5/2005 3:30 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Sorry, this must be a really hard time for you. In reality though, I think it will be good for you to live together first. Plus, a wedding near a lake-house sounds very beautiful and intimate - maybe you can even have an outdoor wedding near the lake.
Hope things work out in a way that make you both happy.
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Posted 2/10/05 7:42 AM
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CJStein
The waiting drove me mad....
Member since 11/04 2628 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Carlyle on the Green A+ and beyond
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm so sorry. Things will work out for the best you you.
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Posted 2/10/05 7:51 AM
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Mishu
Board Fanatic
Member since 12/02 680 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/19/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Giorgio's at Fox Hill
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
is there anyway to compromise ....talk to JT
ask if they will drop your min or something to that effect
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Posted 2/10/05 7:53 AM
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newnybride2be
Board Fanatic
Member since 1/05 942 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/26/2006 12:00 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
awww I am sorry to hear that it was called off. I am sure things will work out perfectly in the end:)
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Posted 2/10/05 8:13 AM
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Mrs_B
SkitzoOoOoO
Member since 11/04 7159 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/17/2005 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Larkfield Manor
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
soo sorry to hear that. but think about it this way, you arent breaking up, you will still have a wedding, even if it isnt a huge production. you arent losing your FH. i know its easier said than done, but just know we are ALL here for you!!
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Posted 2/10/05 8:16 AM
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KimberlyBride
How did I get so lucky?
Member since 2/04 8871 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/15/2005 1:00 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
So sorry.
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Posted 2/10/05 8:20 AM
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Goldi1021
Growing a miracle in my belly!
Member since 1/05 12772 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/18/2006 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Temple Avodah
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
HUGS TO YOU!
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Posted 2/10/05 8:20 AM
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jpavig
Board Fanatic
Member since 8/04 749 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/24/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm so sorry, but maybe it's for the best. With all the pressure he's been under it may be easier all around. Stay strong.
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Posted 2/10/05 8:22 AM
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jantany26
Beyond Obsession
Member since 9/03 8308 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2010 1:00 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm sorry to hear that but things in the end will work out. Good luck.
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Posted 2/10/05 8:23 AM
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Laura1976
Just call me Mrs.
Member since 8/04 1953 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/7/2005 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
US Merchant Marine Academy A+++++++++++++++++
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm so sorry , I hope everything works out for you
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Posted 2/10/05 9:51 AM
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leighdvm
Homeowners!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 10/04 3346 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/25/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The GORGEOUS Villa Lombardi's
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I am so, so sorry to hear that. 
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Posted 2/10/05 9:52 AM
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Donna&Joe708
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 3/04 2906 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/8/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope everything works out for the both of you.
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Posted 2/10/05 9:56 AM
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bluesashbride
thank you LIW
Member since 9/04 2443 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/21/2005 12:00 AM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
a lot of pressure with the money and wedding planning. at least you guys are talking about the issues and thats whats its all about. i think a nice wedding at a lake sounds wonderful, and the fact he wants to be with you speaks volumes. maybe the new wedding plan will incorporate a little of what you both want, and in the end you'll both feel really good about the decision. i wish the best for you!!!
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Posted 2/10/05 9:57 AM
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salsbride06
Merry Christmas
Member since 6/04 2981 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/8/2006 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
JERICHO TERRACE
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
i am so sorry to hear that....i hope things work out for you. try to talk things out with fh. maybe you can talk to jericho terrace. maybe they can lower the minimun required or a smaller payment plan.
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Posted 2/10/05 9:59 AM
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FrescaBride
Dance Like No One Is Watching!
Member since 3/04 2513 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2005 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club (10+++)
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Sooo sorry to hear that. I hope that everything works out the best way for both of you.
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Posted 2/10/05 9:59 AM
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shamrock12472
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 5/04 1280 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/17/2004 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Atlantis Marine World
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I have a question, if he knows that a big wedding is important to you, why is he trying to get you not to go through with it? Why is living together first so important and a reason to postpone the wedding? I didn't live with my Dh before we got married and I would not have unless there was a MAJOR financial reason to. I don't know why living together would prevent you from having a wedding that you want. Why can't you have both?
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Posted 2/10/05 10:00 AM
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littlebookworm4
Old and married
Member since 10/03 4789 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/18/2005 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Thatched Cottage
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm so sorry Amy! Hopefully things can be worked out.
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Posted 2/10/05 10:03 AM
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jimmysgrl
It's An Obsession
Member since 10/04 3543 total posts
Wedding Date:
12/3/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Harrison House
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm so sorry that things have changed for your wedding. And try not to feel embarressed about anything, honestly, there are so many amazing, unique things that you can do at a lakeside wedding that makes it completely personal and amazing. Just look at all the martha stewart weddings, she loves that look. All I can give you is a and hope that it still turns into the wedding of your dreams!
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Posted 2/10/05 10:05 AM
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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4000 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/30/2006 6:00 PM
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Posted by amy&anthony
Well, my FH came in last night, I didnt even get a kiss and he laid down in bed next to me to go to sleep.... I asked him what was wrong as he spilled his guts... He said that I told you I wanted to move in together first... I didnt want to spend so much on a wedding etc!!
Ummm hello... where was I when he was telling me these things.. I think he was thinking them but never told me.. I thought we decided to live with our parents to have a nice wedding and then move out. His exact words were I want what you want, I want you to be happy.. I know you want a big wedding of your dreams.. bla bla bla...
So anyway... After a long discussion.. I may be giving up my deposit at the JT and we will move in together 3/1 and end up having a smaller wedding somewhere upstate by my lake house :(
I am totally sad.. but I kind of agree about the $$, Im embarrassed b/c the WHOLE world knows the date and the place already.... I just bought a WHOLE BUNCH of save the dates YESTERDAY!! :( SO sad :(
Planning a wedding in this area is very stressful and expensive. Based on your prior posts, it seems like the pressure was getting to him for a while.
I think we (brides and some grooms on this site) tend to get caught up in the planning so much so that we don't realize nobody really cares if the linens are white and the dress is ivory. Nobody cares if there are 3 entree options versus 12. Plus, it can all be unnerving when the costs are tallied. I am not from NY and thought a wedding budget of $15K for 150 guests would be for a super elegant, elaborate affair. Boy did I get an eye opener!!!
As another poster noted, you are not losing your FH. He is just not prepared to spend a huge sum on a traditional Long Island wedding. And you know what, that's TOTALLY OKAY. Forget about what everyone knows. There is no reason to be embarrassed at all. At the end of the day no matter if you have a lakeside ceremony upstate or a ceremony/reception at Jericho Terrace, you will still be married to a man who adores you and your son.
As for your deposit, maybe you can get some of it back if the date rebooks? The save the dates are another issue since they are personalized with your names.
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Posted 2/10/05 10:08 AM
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eogara
Newlyweds!!!!
Member since 2/04 6592 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/3/2005 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Milleridge Cottage
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Amy - I'm sorry that the wedding you were hoping for isn't going to pan out. But, the most important thing is that you and FH are getting married. While it's great to have these big parties to celebrate, keeping your eye on what is essential is key and this is one of the times you're going to have to really concentrate on that.
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Posted 2/10/05 10:09 AM
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myssd
Board Fanatic
Member since 6/04 515 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/14/2005 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
mooselodge
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
i Am sorry to hear that. I am sure that everything will be okay. It will all work out for the best
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Posted 2/10/05 10:09 AM
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SomethingBlu
Enjoying the journey...
Member since 10/04 10523 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/27/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Jericho Terrace - A+
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
Posted by kdrainey
Posted by amy&anthony
Well, my FH came in last night, I didnt even get a kiss and he laid down in bed next to me to go to sleep.... I asked him what was wrong as he spilled his guts... He said that I told you I wanted to move in together first... I didnt want to spend so much on a wedding etc!!
Ummm hello... where was I when he was telling me these things.. I think he was thinking them but never told me.. I thought we decided to live with our parents to have a nice wedding and then move out. His exact words were I want what you want, I want you to be happy.. I know you want a big wedding of your dreams.. bla bla bla...
So anyway... After a long discussion.. I may be giving up my deposit at the JT and we will move in together 3/1 and end up having a smaller wedding somewhere upstate by my lake house :(
I am totally sad.. but I kind of agree about the $$, Im embarrassed b/c the WHOLE world knows the date and the place already.... I just bought a WHOLE BUNCH of save the dates YESTERDAY!! :( SO sad :(
Planning a wedding in this area is very stressful and expensive. Based on your prior posts, it seems like the pressure was getting to him for a while.
I think we (brides and some grooms on this site) tend to get caught up in the planning so much so that we don't realize nobody really cares if the linens are white and the dress is ivory. Nobody cares if there are 3 entree options versus 12. Plus, it can all be unnerving when the costs are tallied. I am not from NY and thought a wedding budget of $15K for 150 guests would be for a super elegant, elaborate affair. Boy did I get an eye opener!!!
As another poster noted, you are not losing your FH. He is just not prepared to spend a huge sum on a traditional Long Island wedding. And you know what, that's TOTALLY OKAY. Forget about what everyone knows. There is no reason to be embarrassed at all. At the end of the day no matter if you have a lakeside ceremony upstate or a ceremony/reception at Jericho Terrace, you will still be married to a man who adores you and your son.
As for your deposit, maybe you can get some of it back if the date rebooks? The save the dates are another issue since they are personalized with your names.
Amy - I am so sorry!  I will keep you and your fi in my prayers, trust in God during this most difficult time, there is always tomorrow!
I completely agree with Katrina on all points...do not be embarrased, you have no one to live up to or make happy but yourself, your son and your FH. Don't believe the hype - do what's best for you!
And yes, we are here for you should you need to vent, scream or chat.
Wishing you all the best!
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Posted 2/10/05 10:30 AM
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FTRBRIDE
Mrs. R, Esq.
Member since 9/04 1438 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/4/2005 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Harrison House
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Re: I believe the wedding has been called off :(
I'm hope everything works out for the best.
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