Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

I know I'm not the only one who had some disappointing BM. I was just wondering if you remained as close with them as you were before the wedding. I'm still friends with mine, but I make much less of an effort.

ETS- I had my sis as MOH, my SIL, and 4 friends. One of my friends I'm still just as close to It's hard for us to get together often, but I know she's there. The other 3 I have been really close to for a long time. All 3 of them were a little shady at times through the planning process, but one much more so than the other two. I feel like I haven't spoken to any of them that much since the wedding, because the three of them are like a package deal. Don't get me wrong, we still speak. In fact we're exchanging our Secret Santa gifts this weekend over brunch (it's just the four of us), but I can't help that I still feel resentful.

Message edited 12/15/2004 5:14:03 PM.

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

I only had 2 BM and both of them went above and beyond for me. There were times I think they were more excited for my wedding day than I was! If anything, I am closer now with one of them than I was before the wedding.

But I have heard that weddings can bring out the worst in people. It stinks that in your case it happened with someone in your briday party (if I'm reading into this correctly?). If someone truly disappointed me, I wouldn't waste my time trying to maintain a friendship.

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

I had my sister, my niece, best friend and another friend. So I am still close and speak with all my girls in my BP.

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Yes - most of them were family

3 sisters (2 mine, 1 DH's)
1 cousin
2 friends

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

I only had 2 girls. My SIL (married to my bro) and my SIL (married to DH's bro)

I am still close to both of them

And in retrospect, I'm glad I didn't have a large bridal party, because those people I WAS considering, I hardly keep in touch with anymore (and its only 4 1/2 mos later )

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Posted by FeliciaDA

I only had 2 girls. My SIL (married to my bro) and my SIL (married to DH's bro)

I am still close to both of them

And in retrospect, I'm glad I didn't have a large bridal party, because those people I WAS considering, I hardly keep in touch with anymore (and its only 4 1/2 mos later )

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Message edited 12/15/2004 3:20:33 PM.

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

I am still close with all of my girls. I had 3 BM and & MOH. The only one I'm not really close with is my SIL. I was just never close with her to begin with.

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all of mine were family, 4 sisters, 1 sil, 2 cousins

however, I am not close to one friend who had me in her wedding and I always feel bad that I am in her pics. no fights just grew up

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I have always had an issue with this. I was just so excited to be engaged, I asked 7 people right away without thought.
What a mistake.
DH had 7 people that he is very close with, including his bro and my bro. I just wanted it to be even. Like I said I regret it.

I had my 1 SIL, 4 friends and my only 2 girl cousins (who I HAD to have in.)

So I had 7 and I talk to 3 of them on a regular basis (my 2 best friends and SIL.)

I was never that close to my cousins to begin with I only see them at holidays and family things.
And I should have never asked 2 of my sorority sisters. I barely hear from them. They are too busy. I think we've each spoken 2X since my wedding.

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

i had my sis, sil, and best friend. so yes i'm still close with them. my bf and i haven't talked as much lately but she's in school now so she's really busy. i'm glad i didn't have that many girls.

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I had 7 girls in my BP and I am close to everyone of them. Only one was my cousin the rest were friends from childhood, high school, and college. I'm so glad that they were a part of my day bc they are the best friends a girl could ask for.

I live in Chicago and they live in all over the place (NY, MD, DC, TN). I don't see most of them very often, but we talk pretty frequently via email or phone.

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I am close to all my BMs. Two are relatives, my sister was the MOH and my cousin a BM. The other 3 are friends of mine. One has been friends with me since we were in second grade together. The other two I met through my DH and are very good friends of his and now of mine.

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i have to say i am closer to them because of the wedding..
Even the BM i kicked out has redeemed herself somewhat

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I HAD 2 OF DH'S SIS', MY SIS, 2 FRIENDS, AND MY SIL. NOT THAT CLOSE WITH THE FRIENDS ANYMORE AT ALL.

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I had 7 girls.

My MOH is also my 1st cousin. We are very close but things have not been the same since the wedding.

2 sisters - We are still very close even though one is in CA and the other is in Ireland.

1 SIL - we don't talk to anymore.

1 very good friend we talk all the time.
1 married to my 1st cousin we are very close
1 cousin I don't really talk to anymore but that's partly b/c she moved to CA.

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

I am, but 3 of them I have known for more years then I can remember and the other 2 are my sanity

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

with 3 of my bms i am fine with one we actually got closer since the wedding.
one of them, however, turned into the wicked ***** of the northeast 3 days before the wedding cause i told her her skanky ex husband couldnt come and now she is being a wench.
if i never talk to her again it will be too soon - we went back and are editing her out of our album and video - it will be like she was never there.

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i had my brother as my man of honor my two sisters as bms and my brothers girlfriend and my two best friends. i am actually closer to my one friend since the wedding. my one sister man an arse out of herself and me at the wedding so i dont talk to her anymore. i think one of the best things that came out of my bridal party is my brother and his girlfriend and my two friends have become very close now so we all hang out

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My MOH was my sister, and the BMs were my two SILs and three friends. I am still as close to my friends as I was then. Two of them I talk to regularly - I go to school with one, so we see each other a few times a week. The third friend lives down in VA and we dont' talk much, but that's the way our friendship is. When she's in NY we get together and pick up where we left off. We've been friends since we were 6!

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

Pretty interesting question! I am still close to everyone in my bridal party except one of my bridesmaids. This friend and I probably stopped being friends a long time ago and now that I look at things our friendship was probably forced for quite some time. All for the best!

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Good question. Because I only had 5, and 3 were sisters (my sister was my MOH and then DH's 2 sisters), we stay in touch all the time. The 2 friends were my 2 best friends and I talk to them every other day at least. Unfortunatley, both live in CT so I don't get to see them as much, but we are very close. One just had her 1st baby and the other is pregnant with her 2nd. I really wanted to have 2 other friends in the wedding as well, but my husband only wanted 5 and we both wanted to keep it even. The other 2 friends were both readers, but I am still very close with both. So I am pretty lucky in that sense.

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Yes I am. I talk to them on a regular.

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I am still close to two of them (Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid) but my Maid of Honor moved to FL two weeks after I came home from my honeymoon and we don't speak much. I think she is soul searching and trying to make a new identity for herself, so I think she is distancing herself from other friends.


DH had his brother, my brother and his best friend/my close friend (ie. the guy who introduced us) and they all still talk.

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My MOH is the top MOH thank goodness she has moved on to planning and helping with another friends wedding....after the wedding I needed to de-wedding myself really, she only bugged me for my list...ugh I could not go thru the planning again...we talk on the phne and email thats it....

Re: Are you still as close with the girls in your bridal party?

We are all still close. I see three of them practically every week and the one that lives in Mass. I see once every two-three months