NWR-How Long are you and DH going to wait....

to have kids....

And how many do you both want (if you know).

I'll start...

We fluctuate a lot...but at least a year before we start trying maybe two...even though i am 28 I am not ready right now.....

I would love three...but I am pretty sure we will have just two.

ETS- Give your age in your response.

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we'll start in a few months....we want 2 maybe 3 if the 2 are the same sex

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We'll probably wait 4-5 years to have kids. FH wants 3, I want 2 or 3...but we will take whatever we are blessed with.

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Well we already have one we like to do EVERYTHING early lol
And I say Im not having another one untill we can afford a nice BIG house ( which will probably be never)
I want to wait at LEAST 3 years

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4-5 years.. unless an accident happens.
Once I have one, I want a whole bunch in a row.

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I def want to wait like at least 4 years.. But, I am getting married a month before I am 30.. but it really depends where I am at with my career.. I am really not ready for kinds any time soon, but I don't want to be an old mom.

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Honestly, I don't even want to think about that right now. I just want to get to the wedding, then the HM and then enjoy home and travel.

I would say not for another 2 years at least. I am 29, but I am not ready.

I want 1 child, but I think we will have 2, because both my parents have no brothers or sisters and they said it was pretty lonely growing up.

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I'm goign to wait also. I'm trying to get another job on LI, so once i'm tenured in a good district, I think then we'll try. After this year I will be tenured in NYC... hopefully... but i'm hoping to find somting a bit closer!

Anyone know any openings for Guidance Counselors? hee hee

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at least year after or 2...not more

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Okay let me ask...is it important to you the amount of years between each kid. I know I have two friends who have a kid and both are trying for a second one because one wants one who is 2 years later then the other one and the other one is trying because as she says "isn't that normal spacing"

I would wait to be more secure then both of them, but I wonder if after you have a kid if it becomes an issue to have kids who are close in age....

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Okay let me ask...is it important to you the amount of years between each kid. I know I have two friends who have a kid and both are trying for a second one because one wants one who is 2 years later then the other one and the other one is trying because as she says "isn't that normal spacing"

I would wait to be more secure then both of them, but I wonder if after you have a kid if it becomes an issue to have kids who are close in age....

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I think I would want them at least 2-3 years apart. I think that is good.

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Posted by SeptWed

Okay let me ask...is it important to you the amount of years between each kid. I know I have two friends who have a kid and both are trying for a second one because one wants one who is 2 years later then the other one and the other one is trying because as she says "isn't that normal spacing"

I would wait to be more secure then both of them, but I wonder if after you have a kid if it becomes an issue to have kids who are close in age....

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I want to have one right after the other!

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Posted by SeptWed

Okay let me ask...is it important to you the amount of years between each kid. I know I have two friends who have a kid and both are trying for a second one because one wants one who is 2 years later then the other one and the other one is trying because as she says "isn't that normal spacing"

I would wait to be more secure then both of them, but I wonder if after you have a kid if it becomes an issue to have kids who are close in age....

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I want to have one right after the other!

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Thats the way I feel, but I am just not ready now and at times i feel bad because I am 28.....and my mom had both of her kids by 27....mind you she is divorced..but still....

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I dont want them right after another for a few reasons. 1 - I have a friend who had 4 all with a year or less apart from eachother. The doctor told her numerous times that it is bad for your body and you have to give yourself at least 2 years inbetween.. well she didnt listen and herself and her youngest child wound up with diabeties.
2- Easier said then done! Having one of my own and being SO CLOSE to him.. I cant even imagine taking away even a drop of attention from him.. esp. at this fun and crucial age when he really needs all the attention he can get.
3 - Ohmigod I am sooooo tired after chasing him all day I cant imagine taking care of a baby to top it off!! I mean when you FINALLY can sleep through the whole night do you want to start that all over again? lol

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Posted by SeptWed

Okay let me ask...is it important to you the amount of years between each kid. I know I have two friends who have a kid and both are trying for a second one because one wants one who is 2 years later then the other one and the other one is trying because as she says "isn't that normal spacing"

I would wait to be more secure then both of them, but I wonder if after you have a kid if it becomes an issue to have kids who are close in age....

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I want to have one right after the other!

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Thats the way I feel, but I am just not ready now and at times i feel bad because I am 28.....and my mom had both of her kids by 27....mind you she is divorced..but still....

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me too.. But that was the 70's. Times were different then. Our parents got married right out of college- if not before and started having kids quickly..

Anyway- haven't you heard- 30 is the new 20!!!

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he sounds like a great guy..

I think you'll know when you are ready.. try not to put so much pressure on yourself on when.. You'll know when the time is right.

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Thanks...sometimes i feel insecure becuase there are so many of my friends and people i know who want and need to have kids but don't becuase they are not financially ready for it and I feel bad that I still want to go out and have a good time....not just that...but sleep in, make my own schedule......

Then i start feeling selfish.....its a never ending battle with us girls............we all know it......

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Thanks...sometimes i feel insecure becuase there are so many of my friends and people i know who want and need to have kids but don't becuase they are not financially ready for it and I feel bad that I still want to go out and have a good time....not just that...but sleep in, make my own schedule......

Then i start feeling selfish.....its a never ending battle with us girls............we all know it......

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I know you are right and i hear it from everyone...none of my friends except 2 have kids and they go out all the time....I just sometimes feel guilty, but in the end its mine and FH decision....and we are the most important.

However, I would still like to hear about Future Brides, or recent brides, Or soon to be moms and dads responses....

I love it how everyone is so diffrent on this borad and that is why I love to find out everyones ideas about kids...

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I am sure whatever you decide it will be right for you...

the right decision for me- is to go to bed... I'm pooped.

Have a good night..

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I am 24-FH is 26. We plan on waiting, I would like to be 90% finished with my Master's.(1-2years)

I would like to be "finished" having children by the time I am 30. I don't know if this will happen. I would like to have my no longer than 2-3 years apart. I want them to be very close to eachother

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We are definately going to wait a few years. We are so young and we want to enjoy some of our time together before we start having children. When we do have children, I want to have them close together. FH and his siblings are all very close in age and they are very close together. They went through similar experiences and were always there for eachother. Though I'm close to my siblings, we're not all that close and I feel that it is because of the gaps in our ages. JMO though.

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We are going to wait a year so we can enjoy marriage & each other...We want 2 but maybe 3 if we get the same sex

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I'll be 32 when we get married...so tick tock...but honestly I'm not ready - not sure if I ever will be. I always envisioned the 2 kids a boy and girl...older boy and about 2-3 years apart...but I never quite envisioned them being mine

Not against it, but not ready...