Guest may bring a two-month old!!!!!!!

So a kind of family member of FH (long, long story, but they have only met probably 5 times) has two kids, but is having a baby two months before our wedding. All along she said they wouldn't be able to make it because she would be feeding and couldn't leave the baby with a relative (they live about 8 hours away so it is a long trip). Today he says they might come, with the baby. I am imagining crying during the ceremony, dirty diapers stinking up my reception...I didn't even want kids there to begin with, and now this!? Can I ask FMIL to delicately tell her no babies even though we would welcome the 10 and 13 year old kids?

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I am w/ you - A wedding reception is no place for a 2 month old baby !! - I'm assuming they won't come......

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What if she just brings the baby to the reception? Is that an option, so no crying baby during the ceremony.

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Beth, is this who I think it is?

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My best friend's sister had a baby three months before her wedding.. they baby slept the entire time during the wedding, Rehearsal Dinner, etc.. They are so little at that point, it is like a living acessory.

Plus, if the kids starts crying during the ceremony, I am sure her or the dad will step outside until the baby stops.

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I'm not having kids at mine. (only my half-sister, who is in the WP (she'll be 11) and my mom's neice, who is also 11- but is my only 1st cousin). My FH's first cousins are all adults who have children, so we argue about this all the time, but we don't want to start opeing a panduras (sp?) box with EVERYONE's children!

But a 2 month old... I would think not! PLUS, I wouldn't even WANT to take MY 2 month old to a wedding!

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Posted by peabody

Beth, is this who I think it is?

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Posted by randella

My best friend's sister had a baby three months before her wedding.. they baby slept the entire time during the wedding, Rehearsal Dinner, etc.. They are so little at that point, it is like a living acessory.

Plus, if the kids starts crying during the ceremony, I am sure her or the dad will step outside until the baby stops.

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Posted by bluetank

What if she just brings the baby to the reception? Is that an option, so no crying baby during the ceremony.

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Posted by randella

My best friend's sister had a baby three months before her wedding.. they baby slept the entire time during the wedding, Rehearsal Dinner, etc.. They are so little at that point, it is like a living acessory.

Plus, if the kids starts crying during the ceremony, I am sure her or the dad will step outside until the baby stops.

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Sigh. It's not even the crying, but they can be so smelly! And who else is going to want to sit at a table with them and the baby!? And what if she breast feeds at my wedding They are from a very rural area, so I think they don't really have any idea what this wedding is going to be like!

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And breastfeeding- I am still scarred from being a kid and walking in on a woman who was breastfeeding at my temple in the coat room during the high holidays- I mean- go to the bathroom!!

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And breastfeeding- I am still scarred from being a kid and walking in on a woman who was breastfeeding at my temple in the coat room during the high holidays- I mean- go to the bathroom!!

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I have a problem with this last statement. Would you want to eat in a bathroom?!?!?

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Wow girls this is one touchy subject!! Us moms might take offense to it but remember it is your wedding!! Just be sure to approach it tactfully

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And breastfeeding- I am still scarred from being a kid and walking in on a woman who was breastfeeding at my temple in the coat room during the high holidays- I mean- go to the bathroom!!

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I have a problem with this last statement. Would you want to eat in a bathroom?!?!?

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I don't know if the baby will care where it is being fed?

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That is a tough situation. Maybe they could just decide to have one spouse stay with the baby (at the hotel) and the other bring the two kids? Whatever happens I hope it works out the way you want it!

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Posted by randella


And breastfeeding- I am still scarred from being a kid and walking in on a woman who was breastfeeding at my temple in the coat room during the high holidays- I mean- go to the bathroom!!

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I have a problem with this last statement. Would you want to eat in a bathroom?!?!?

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I don't know if the baby will care where it is being fed?

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Posted by Elaina

Wow girls this is one touchy subject!! Us moms might take offense to it but remember it is your wedding!! Just be sure to approach it tactfully

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Posted by randella


And breastfeeding- I am still scarred from being a kid and walking in on a woman who was breastfeeding at my temple in the coat room during the high holidays- I mean- go to the bathroom!!

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I have a problem with this last statement. Would you want to eat in a bathroom?!?!?

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I don't know if the baby will care where it is being fed?

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I don;t have a problem with breastfeeding at all.. I just think it can make someone uncomfortable.. especially at a wedding where everyone does not know each other. Aside from that-- it is a completely natural thing-- plus it burns calories!

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Exactly, I think the bathroom was just a suggestion of a more private place. I wouldn't care if she went to the bridal suite or whatever; that would probably be even more private than the bathroom.

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I am in the exact same situation. My cousins are coming from Florida with their 3 month old. I have no kids coming- except my 6 and 10 year old cousins from Paris. I kinda got cornered into letting them come with the baby but asked them to sit in the back and to have the caterer to also check that they sit in the back. I am just hoping the baby doesn't cry during the ceremony!

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I still go back to my original post-- babies that little sleep all the time, except when their mommies and daddys want to sleep.

At least- that is what I have experienced.

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I would think that as long as they are respectful and take the baby outside when it's crying, you'll barely know the kid's there. It's not like he/she will be running around or anything.

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JUST SAY NO!!!!!!!

i told eveyone. NO babies / children at the shower - other than my one flower girl... and absolutely NO NO NO kids / babies / anything at the wedding. its not the place for it. so if you cant find a babysitter, dont come!!

im so mean, but i just dont care!!! i have been to way too many weddings where the kids have gone balistic.
-jenn

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We have a 2 month old and a 4 month old coming to our wedding. It's the only way we get to see our friends AND their new babies, so I have no problem with it at all. I'm giving them access to the bridal suite in case they need extra space or privacy.

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I'm fairly certain that you will never have an opportunity to smell the baby and highly doubt that a parent would let their child stink and not take care of it.

My best friend brought her 6 week old baby to my wedding. She breastfeeds, so when necessary, she disappeared with her and I never knew where she went. During the ceremony, if she fussed the slightest bit, either she or her husband took the baby out. I never heard her once, and she slept through the entire day.

If you don't want children at your wedding, that's one thing, but your comments about not wanting a stinky baby and a breastfeeding mother at your wedding are a little distasteful. Besides, most babies that young smell yummy!