Those inviting people to the ceremony but not reception...

Did you make up little invitations??? Just give out the ceremony portion of the invite??

How far in advance did you give them out???

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I'm using word of mouth....they're basically my and FH's co-workers. As for FMIL and MOB asking people, I told her she could have just the invitation that has the church on it. I would send them out the same time as you would your regular ones.

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Can you even do that? Invite people to go only to the ceremony? Because I could tell EEEEEEEVERYONE! lol

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Trust me....the church will be SO STUFFED because I invited the WORLD!!! Invite as many people you want to the church....IT'S FREE!!!

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Posted by CaCRmr

Trust me....the church will be SO STUFFED because I invited the WORLD!!! Invite as many people you want to the church....IT'S FREE!!!

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IMO it is a little tacky, I had a co-worker do that to me once. It just felt too much like an afterthought to me.

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I would think people would assume they were invited to the whole wedding if they received any type of invite. I have never seen this done. You may end up getting stuck with extra people at your reception.

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i am making up a cermony card on my computer- less formal - but i am sending them mostly to the kids that i used to babysit. Plus my mom can hang one up at work for anyone to come

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I thinkit is usually just word of mouth.
I'm not really going to do it, but I think most of my freinds know that if they want to bring their parents or sbilings to the church that's fine.

My HS reunion is the week before, so if I go and run into anyone I would have invited if we had kept in touch, I might invite them to the church.
I think that wouldn't be too rude, b/c we have't been in touch in years.

But rude or not, I thought the point of listing reception info on a separate card was so you could invite selective people to the reception.

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JMO I think that is very tacky. How do you send "little invites" to a person to come see you get married, but not join in the celebration? I think word of mouth is best, if they want to come they will. All the bridal magazines and wedding advice people state that this is a NO-NO. JMO!

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To be honest...this is for the guest to decide...i don't think you invite people...if people ask when your wedding is than you can say oh bla bla bla but if it is that important for them to be there than you would have invited them to the reception

i am going to someones ceremony...not that close but friends througha friend
anyone can go to the ceremony really (of course if they know you)
JMO....i think i would be offended if i got an invite to a ceremony and not a reception...just weird

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I had my supervisor hang an invite in her office. Who ever wanted to come to the church was more than welcome. I didnt have any co-workers at the reception cuz I didnt want anyone to feel hurt..I couldnt have had all of them plus guests..I wouldve had a huge reception!

Message edited 6/24/2004 7:52:29 PM.

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my cousin did this because she couldnt afford more than a few folks at the reception she made 2 invites one for the ceremony only and one for both she sent them at the same time - and for anyone who asked she said we could only afford to invite immediate family and close friends to the reception because we are paying for it ourselves but we would love to have you be at our wedding with us
it worked out fine - alot of people came to the ceremony and only the 50 or so she invited came to the reception

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i think if i got an invite in the mail to the ceremony & not the reception, i would think the reception card was mistakenly left out and that i WAS invited to the reception!
i think if people are interested in coming to ceremony, they will ask. i have had a lot of co-workers ask what time & where my ceremony is so they can come to the church... also, some neighbors and co-workers of my moms as well...they've asked.

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I would love to invite my neighbor to the ceremonybut, I am afraid.....they will get offended, that i did not invite them to the reception.

Most people do not come to the church. They just go straight to the reception.

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I guess maybe because I consider myself a "Wedding Hopper" even if I don't know the person I stop by the church if I see there is going to be a wedding. I just love the "church" part...that is the best part. I told people I'm having a small wedding and if they wanted to come to the church I would be honored, I doubt they would be offended

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I am definately asking people, if they have the time to stop by the ceremony..
But i would never write out informal invites...i think that is tacky

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I am definately asking people, if they have the time to stop by the ceremony..
But i would never write out informal invites...i think that is tacky

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I don't think it's tacky. My FI wanted some people at work to come to the ceremony but we are already way over the limited for the recpetion so he told them how he would really like for them to come to the ceremony. He just had me print a couple of extra invites and directions and he can hand them to the them at work.
I figure we could do word of mouth but then some people might not remember what time and they will need directions.

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I am a teacher and ALL of my kids want to come to the ceremony portion of the wedding, so I will hang an invitation outside of my classroom so the parents can see. As for other people, I will just tell them word of mouth so they don't feel insulted.

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In my own defense...

FH and I are involved with alot of teams/groups/etc. and we know a lot of people...

My initial post was a question (which also listed a few potential options) about how I could handle including the people we deal with on a regular (though superficial) basis...

(Much like the way a teacher may wish to invite her students to her wedding ceremony...Obviously without the intention of adding an additional 30 kids to her reception invitation list...)

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No need to explain your self, you did just ask how you shoudl do it, not IF you should do it. . .

If there are places the groups congregate, maybe you could mention it & post 1 invitation (ceremony part only) like a few people mentioned they did at work.

Message edited 6/25/2004 10:53:45 AM.

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

In my own defense...

FH and I are involved with alot of teams/groups/etc. and we know a lot of people...

My initial post was a question (which also listed a few potential options) about how I could handle including the people we deal with on a regular (though superficial) basis...

(Much like the way a teacher may wish to invite her students to her wedding ceremony...Obviously without the intention of adding an additional 30 kids to her reception invitation list...)

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