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prncssrachel
One happy family!
Member since 2/03 11213 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Bourne Mansion
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I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I get it, but I just don't want to do it. I understand the purpose of it, but I've only really seen people do it in a church and we are getting married in the hall. I think it will look ridiculous to light one in the freaking hall. Am I looking into it too much?
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Posted 4/5/04 9:51 PM 
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LIJuneBride
Jesse's mom!
Member since 9/03 2152 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/26/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Areca
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I don't think it matters where you're getting married. If you want to do a unity candle, do one. If you don't, then don't. We're not doing one.
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Posted 4/5/04 9:53 PM
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prncssrachel
One happy family!
Member since 2/03 11213 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Bourne Mansion
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
Posted by LIJuneBride
I don't think it matters where you're getting married. If you want to do a unity candle, do one. If you don't, then don't. We're not doing one.
Ok, I'm glad to hear someone else is not doing one. I get the look of death when I tell people I don't want to do one. That and the bo-k/garter toss. We just don't want to do either and it's like we are committing a crime or something!
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Posted 4/5/04 9:55 PM
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kel2004
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 10/03 2905 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/14/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I'm getting married in a church and I'm not doing the unity candle either. Don't worry about it. People just like to comment on everything.
Message edited 4/5/2004 9:56:09 PM.
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Posted 4/5/04 9:55 PM
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May2704bride
And I'm supposed to say wha???
Member since 9/03 1073 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/27/2004 6:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Fox Hollow
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We're not doing it either (and we're getting married at the catering hall). I personally think the whole unity candle, hour long mass is tooo much for me. JMO 
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Posted 4/5/04 9:56 PM
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heidla
Anyone care for a spot of tea?
Member since 10/02 5901 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2004 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
The Snuff Mill at the NYBG
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We are not doing one either. I think have to say that I think that there is too much emphasis on what is traditional/expected. My wedding will include some traditional parts, but it will all be things that we want to do not that we feel obligated to do.
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Posted 4/5/04 9:57 PM
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kel2004
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 10/03 2905 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/14/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Hamlet Wind Watch
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
Posted by heidla
We are not doing one either. I think have to say that I think that there is too much emphasis on what is traditional/expected. My wedding will include some traditional parts, but it will all be things that we want to do not that we feel obligated to do.
I agree, and I also think that the unity candle isn't traditional. I think it's a kind of new thing. I think that's why I don't want to do it. 
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Posted 4/5/04 10:00 PM
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prncssrachel
One happy family!
Member since 2/03 11213 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Bourne Mansion
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
It's hard because I've NEVER been one to do things because other people wanted me to or expected me to, so I don't see this as an exception. But at the same time, I don't want to piss anyone off. But it's MY freaking wedding!
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Posted 4/5/04 10:00 PM
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Jan05Bride
Is that a leg?
Member since 9/03 7117 total posts
Wedding Date:
1/7/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I don't want one either. I am getting married at a RC church and I don't want the unity candle or do the blessed mother flowers .. I just want a mass and my vows, that's it ...
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Posted 4/5/04 10:24 PM
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checka
Board Fanatic
Member since 5/03 867 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/3/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Villa Lombardi's - A+
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We are not doing a unity candle either.
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Posted 4/5/04 10:29 PM
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MegLehner
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 12/03 1046 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/16/2004 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Bourne Mansion
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We are not doing a unity candle either
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Posted 4/5/04 10:43 PM
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tracyg
It's A Sickness!
Member since 1/03 5130 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/9/2004 12:00 PM
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
no unity candle either.
and i get the same look of death when i say we're not doing the bo-k/garter toss. sorry, don't like it... my wedding!! 
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Posted 4/5/04 10:54 PM
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wenndypoo
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 1/03 2391 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/16/2004 5:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Flowerfield
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We're not doing it either.
I don't think anyone will miss it!
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Posted 4/6/04 1:12 AM
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samsbride
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Member since 8/03 576 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/23/2004 12:00 AM
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
So funny. I didn't want to do one but never thought about just saying I didn't want to.
I don't think anyone cares but I felt like I had to go along with it (very much NOT my personality)
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Posted 4/6/04 1:26 AM
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brideinapril
My First Love.....
Member since 11/03 4449 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/17/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Rockhill in Manorville
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We arent doing a unity candle either, but my brother did one and he got married at the hall, it looked fine!
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Posted 4/6/04 8:23 AM
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AndreaLMT
Ahhhhh.....
Member since 12/03 2858 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/14/2004 2:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Atlantica
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We're not doing one either!!!
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Posted 4/6/04 8:36 AM
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sweetadeline
The life aquatic
Member since 1/04 2382 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/28/2004 5:00 PM
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I'm doing almost none of the traditional stuff. I don't think it matters much. I even consulted an etiquette book, because I felt bad about omitting the bouquet and garter toss, and the book said that you don't have to do those things if you don't want to do them.
(I did decide to HAND the bouquet to someone rather than toss it. That was my only compromise!)
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Posted 4/6/04 8:36 AM
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prncssrachel
One happy family!
Member since 2/03 11213 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
The Bourne Mansion
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
Oh yay girls! So I am not the only one! There's just some things that I draw the line at. I'm totally into details, don't get me wrong, but I want to do it my way, which usually isn't everyone else's way Ok, so we are the non-unity candle group...thanks for the support
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Posted 4/6/04 8:43 AM
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JP&EP
Love Being Mrs. A
Member since 10/03 3337 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/29/2006 12:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Riviera at Massapequa
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I think it's a matter of choice. My brother and SIL didn't do it and their ceremony seemed fine without it.
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Posted 4/6/04 9:12 AM
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BCTM33
Time just keeps flying by!
Member since 2/04 2139 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/29/2004 5:00 PM
Wed. Location:
North Ritz Club
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I'm not doing it - it just isn't for me. My fiance's family is SO upset that we are skipping it though - they want us to keep the candle as a memory of our wedding day forever (along with the cake cutter, the toasting glasses, the guest sign in book, and all the other stuff - I have a tiny apartment and no where to put it all!)
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Posted 4/6/04 9:50 AM
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pinkstar025
My Maddie girl
Member since 1/04 2378 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2005 3:30 PM
Wed. Location:
Giorgios
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
121502: who's teh bride YOU ARE!! don't worry..do what YOU want!!! Everyone will have fun regardless!
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Posted 4/6/04 9:55 AM
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diamondgrlie
Board Princess
Member since 2/04 10473 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/3/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Woodbury Country Club - A+
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I'm not doing the unity candle either. No idea what it is all about either... ok I guess unity...  But I think the ceremony at the church will be fine without it.
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Posted 4/6/04 10:01 AM
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Xelindrya
Goodbye Sparky-love you
Member since 7/03 7862 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/23/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Stewart Manor Ctry Club
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
We're not doing the Unity Candle, sand, or anything else that's thought of.
We just want the whole ceremony part over as quickly as possible. Mostly cause we're married and just want the party to start. LOL 
But really my family would think it very cliche (sp) and his family would think it's just my family being weird. Its an extra worry (what to get, where to put it, how to light it, bring matches, lighter, whatever)
Nah.. aint doing it.
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Posted 4/6/04 10:04 AM
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Bebalina
HAPPY HOMEOWNER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Member since 1/04 4893 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/14/2005 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crest Hollow Country Club 10+++++++++++++++
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
Posted by 121502
I get it, but I just don't want to do it. I understand the purpose of it, but I've only really seen people do it in a church and we are getting married in the hall. I think it will look ridiculous to light one in the freaking hall. Am I looking into it too much?
IMO yes ur looking into it too much.
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Posted 4/6/04 10:04 AM
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hbradio
Our board is gone :-(
Member since 11/03 9841 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/29/2005 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: I don't want to do a unity candle. Is that wrong of me?
I am getting married in a church and I am not doing it either - its just something extra I cant afford and furthermore I think its fairly new so no one in my family would miss it.
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Posted 4/6/04 10:06 AM
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