need to vent and advice- my sister is driving me crazy!!!long

im getting married in 17 days. one of my sisters is my bm. im not that close with her but i try. she has a son who is my godson. now to give background she is miserable- lives with her boyfriend- they dont even really like each other..she doesnt have a job, not a good education... never really did anything with herself. i feel bad for her,she feels sorry for herself. she really doesnt come to any family parties, gatherings. she blows off the family and never calls anyone back unless she is fighting with her boyfriends- then she calls us hysterical crying and gets us all worried and then doesnt call back. i thnk shes jealous that the rest of us have been successful and are happy and she isnt. what im trying to say is i try with her but misery loves company so she doesnt want to be around much. she didnt even come to my shower.. didnt send a response back for myw edding i wasnt hurt bc i am so used to her.

anyway, when i first got engaged i told her i wanted johnny to be the ring bearer. i also asked her to be in my bridal party... i even bought her the dress& shoes bc i know she doesnt work and her boyfriend gives her money for the baby only.
i have left her HUNDREDS of messages asking her to call me back so we could figure out what were doing with johnny for that night. is he going to be the ring bearer or not, is he coming to the church and reception, just the church, is she coming at all, do i need a babysitter???

to backtrack, she doesnt get along with her boyfriend.. dont ask why she still lives there. so he is not coming to the wedding with her and she doesnt want to leave johnny with him. at my sisters wedding last year my sister came to the wedding and she left johhny with her boyfriends- the babys fatherno less., he complained and gave her a hard time for staying out all ngiht and coming home late the e next day- we had a family brunch!.. basically she only cares her son. he isnt really a father figure. so she wants to bring the baby all day to the wedding..hes 3!!!!

so i try to call and work out the details. never a phone call back. my whole family tries to call her... never called back. so i cancelled the tux for my nephew, didnt tell DJ that i have a ringbearer finally i called her and said if she doesnt call me back and show someinterest in my wedding then i really dont care her to come.

So she finally calls me today and tells me shes coming and shes going to get the baby fitted onFriday!!!!!! I yelled at her saying the tux was cancelled and how could she tell me last minute....

bottom line is- shes coming to the wedding and bringing johnny- which is fine. but now i have to call her to make sure i get the measurements, call the dj, i have to worry about him being tired at the reception, she said she would take a cab back to the hotel if she gets tired... and the church.. she cant come to the rehearsal so im going to wing it with him walking down the aisle?

im sorry this is so jumbled. i m so upset because i am a worrier. i want to make sure everyone is taken care of........ and now im worried about my 3 year old nephew.

HELP!!!!!!!

Re: need to vent and advice- my sister is driving me crazy!!!long

Sorry Kristi- Who ever said getting married was easy? We are having some trouble with one of our groomsman, he still hasn't ordered his tux. FH even gave him an out today, but he said he wanted to be in the wedding. He was actually on the phone with FH telling him that there was still time to back out and he didn't have to marry me. What a jerk. What I am trying to say is, that our day is so important to us and it should be for everyone else too, but for some reason some people just like to be miserable and try to drag you down with them. Don't let this get to ya. Try and stay positive. Everything will work out. Oh and it is 16 days to our wedding. Why are you always a day off girl?? Don't worry, everything will be fine!!!

Re: need to vent and advice- my sister is driving me crazy!!!long

Boop is right! Weddings are not easy. Right now, my FH's sister is not talking to him b/c he was having a conversation with her about patching things up with his step-mother before the wedding. She hung up on him. So he told his Brother In Law that he will see them at the wedding.

I'm sure things are going to plan out fine for you. Just think in 16 days you'll be a Mrs. I have 15 days to go and I keep thinking of not only our wedding day but our honeymoon!!!

Re: need to vent and advice- my sister is driving me crazy!!!long

Your right JuJu- Bring on the Honeymoon!! Kristi- These are the kinds of things that we need the honeymoon for. Seriously, you really need the honeymoon to get over all the crap from the wedding!!!

Re: need to vent and advice- my sister is driving me crazy!!!long

Kristi... Where are you????

Re: need to vent and advice- my sister is driving me crazy!!!long

Thanks for the advice. Jaime, after i wrote that my fiance told me to lay down and relax and he gave me a head massage. Hes the best! I have to stop worrying about everythng else and concentrate on me. Its just so hard becaus EI grew up like that..Bring on the honeymoon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!