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Maribelle7777
It's A Sickness!
Member since 5/03 5699 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2004 12:00 AM
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best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
seems he wants to get married next year himself and just bought a house this year which he now needs to refinance to afford the wedding.
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and you're waiting until NOW to tell this to us?
ok granted we knew in november that you were "iffy" but you'd let us know.
but for heaven's sakes, he's known about the wedding since nov 2002 and now 3 months beforehand he's telling us this? thanks buddy!
it wouldn't be that bad if he said from the start of everything that he wasn't sure and maybe ask someone else to be best man. but now we are uneven and FH wants to ask his father to be his best man. Which I think is sweet. It's going to be weird with his dad escorting my 26 year old sister back up the aisle after the mass, and the first dance, but we'll work it out somehow.
i'm more ticked off about the best man.
oh and he has the balls to say he wants us at his wedding and for FH to be one of his groomsmen! FH better not say OK because I will tear a new one for him if he does. We already have 2 weddings in Ireland in the fall and winter 2004, another one in july we can't go to (well maybe...depends on when it is and if we can stay with family), and it's like oh you can't come to ours but you want us to come to yours? hell no! we have bills too you know.
on the upside he was very very apologetic (but a little to late) and he did say he knew he was being a "cheeky ba$tard" for asking us to his wedding and all that, so it's not like he doesn't know he's letting FH down.
It's just annoying and FH is really down about it.
Message edited 1/21/2004 10:09:35 AM.
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Posted 1/21/04 10:07 AM 
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SReidy
Sprig has sprung FINALLY!!
Member since 9/02 1419 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/15/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Majestic Gardens
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that!!  It's nice that your FH wants to ask his dad though. That was my FH's first feeling who he wanted to ask as well but he asked his brother instead.
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Posted 1/21/04 10:10 AM
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PrincessRose
At least I'm entertaining. ;-)
Member since 9/03 4669 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/29/2004 11:30 AM
Wed. Location:
Chateau Briand
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
Wow, that's pretty awful.
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Posted 1/21/04 10:10 AM
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Moehick
So Happy Together
Member since 9/03 7333 total posts
Wedding Date:
3/14/2004 4:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Westbury Manor
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
Oh, so sorry Don't worry, it will work out.
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Posted 1/21/04 10:27 AM
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Sage10.03
It's An Obsession
Member since 11/02 4365 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/4/2003 12:00 AM
Wed. Location:
Fiesole, Italy
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
I am so sorry to hear this!!!
That must be frustrating to your FH and disappointing as well!
I don't blame you guys for being very upset!!!
He could have at least given your FH some more time!!
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Posted 1/21/04 10:32 AM
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butterfly20
married over 2 years!!!
Member since 3/03 10672 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Manor East
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
so sorry
i would be very disapointed too..
aside from the father maybe one of the groomsman can be the best man? then one of the groomsman can walk 2 girls...??
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Posted 1/21/04 10:36 AM
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MrHostility
Board Fanatic
Member since 1/04 714 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/5/2010 9:00 PM
Wed. Location:
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
That guy's a d!ck. If I was your FH, I wouldn't be speaking with him anymore, let alone being in his wedding.
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Posted 1/21/04 10:38 AM
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skew
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 10/03 2417 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/23/2004 7:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Suffolk County
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
How insensitive! He is getting married next year and is refinancing his house, so what does that have to do w/ your wedding? Obviously it is a $$$ issue.
I don't get it though. Is he stilll panning on attending the wedding and won't he have to buy a gift? Why not tell him to forego the gift and use the $$ towards renting the wedding attire. Really, it's not that epensive to rent a tux/suit.
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Posted 1/21/04 10:41 AM
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KathleenG
No words today
Member since 4/03 3610 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/5/2004 3:00 PM
Wed. Location:
Crescent Beach Club
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
I am sorry!!! I would be completely upset!!
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Posted 1/21/04 10:43 AM
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september2004
It's An Obsession
Member since 9/03 3384 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2004 2:00 PM
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
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Posted 1/21/04 11:13 AM
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lullabella
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 10/03 1112 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/20/2004 12:00 AM
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
I am sorry, that is so horrible. Personally he does not sound like a good friend and I think your FI would be much better picking his dad to stand up for him.
This happened to my friends husband and he was really crushed, so I can imagine how upset your FI must be.
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Posted 1/21/04 11:18 AM
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NYCHICK
It wasn't me......
Member since 9/03 4608 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/5/2004 12:00 AM
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GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
to you and your FH. Can you find anybody to replace him in time?
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Posted 1/21/04 11:19 AM
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june262004
PMS POSSE
Member since 1/03 12014 total posts
Wedding Date:
6/26/2004 2:30 PM
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Swan Club. Rosyln Harbor L.I. FM for details!
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
THATS SUCKS. Im sorry to u guys. Id be so upset. As for the 1st dance u could have each one (dad and sister) dance with their dates.
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Posted 1/21/04 11:22 AM
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Maribelle7777
It's A Sickness!
Member since 5/03 5699 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2004 12:00 AM
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
Posted by MrHostility
That guy's a d!ck. If I was your FH, I wouldn't be speaking with him anymore, let alone being in his wedding.
please, tell me how you REALLY feel!
there's more to it than meets the eye. where fh is from, it's more relaxed when it comes ot weddings and all that. but still it's no excuse.
fh is upset and i doubt we'll go to the wedding unless it's close to christmas since we'll be in ireland then anyway for holidays. but not talk to him i don't know. maybe, maybe not.
it's up to him. i never met the guy actually. fh came to ny in 2001. the guy still lives over there.
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Posted 1/21/04 11:50 AM
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Maribelle7777
It's A Sickness!
Member since 5/03 5699 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2004 12:00 AM
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
As for one guy doubling up, that might work and then my friend can dance with her husband. But I think we'll ask his dad and then his dad can dance with his sister and my sister can dance with one of the other groomsmen and then a bridesmaid can dance with her husband. or FFIL can dance with my sister. Will look awkward but hey it's a 1 minute dance, and she may not mind.
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Posted 1/21/04 11:57 AM
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janet
MRS. LONLY
Member since 3/02 1810 total posts
Wedding Date:
2/29/2004 6:00 PM
Wed. Location:
East Wind Catereing Hall
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Re: best man told us he isn't coming to the wedding now
i had a gm tell me he wanted to pull out just the other day! and i have 39 days to the wedding and i told him no way is he doing this to me this close to the wedding... i understand he was laid off so i told him we will find a way to get the money up for the tux don't worry about it either cuz for me to be in his wedding they helped me so i will help him... my bm and gm are really off as it is i am sorry that u are going through this, i know how you feel!
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Posted 1/21/04 12:38 PM
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