Are you putting his parents names on the invite?

I am not. For a few reasons, my parents are helping us but his family has not. Also, his parents are divorced and his mom re-married and now divorced again so I really don't want to put her ex-husband's last name on the invite. (He was a JERK to her.) I just hope she does not get upset when we do send them out.

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We are not only because we are doing the whole wedding ourselves.

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I am going to put FH's parents names on the invite. I think it is right. The main invitation invites you to the church, so usually both sets of parents are inviting you. The reception is being paid for by my parents so I will have the response cards come back to my house and I think that should tell everyone that MY parents are paying.

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I don't really want to (has nothing to do with money, everyone has been great). I rather...."along with their parents are celebrating...."

Message edited 11/13/2003 9:30:59 AM.

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We're putting everyone's name on , regardless of their $$ contribution.

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we didn't.

We used:
Together with their parents...

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We are not because we are paying for the whole wedding ourselves.

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I am. They are not really contributing $$ to the wedding but they have made me feel like their daughter ever since I moved here so I wanted to include them as well.

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We are using "Together with our parents"

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I didn't. They're not contributing, and although I was going to do "together with their parents" at the last minute I changed my mind and put my parents' names on it. It's the traditional way anyway, so if his parents say anything that's what I'm telling them.

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I am not. We are paying for MOST of the wedding ourselves. My mom gave me a lump sum of cash in the beginning (which she prefers that we use for a house), but ended up giving me more $ along the way. His mom only paid for things when she didn't like what I picked out. (for example, she is spending about $2k on favors- I was going to get something from the dollar store, and she was opposed to that. Also, she is paying for the Viennese desserts because her nephew had them at his wedding...) So, because she only contributes to unnecessary items, and is not paying for ANYONE to actually eat dinner, I don't think she should be listed on the invitation.

The only time I've seen the groom's parents listed was when they paid for a considerable amount of the wedding (like 30% or more)

Message edited 11/13/2003 9:58:02 AM.

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FI's parents are both deceased. My mother has contributed $$ but I asked her if she cared whether or not we listed her (my parents are separated for a long time but still good friends). Even though eh has not contributed $$, I ddin't want to include her and leave him out, so we are going to just use our names.

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We are putting both our parents names on the invite even though we are paying for most of it ourselves. Their names will be at the bottom of the invite.

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We put together with our parents, so we didn't have to seal with all of the drama.

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We are putting both of our parents' names even though we've paid for most of the wedding costs.

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We're using: Together with their families...

We're paying for the wedding but it couldn't happen without both of our families so it seems appropriate to us.

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No, we're probably going to do "Together with their Parents....."

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We are using "together with their parents Mr. and Mrs. so and so......" with our parents names even though we are paying for it ourselves.
It was a respect issue for us, not a money issue. Like cp0329 said, without the support of our families, this would not have been possible, so it just seemed right.

Message edited 11/13/2003 11:33:17 AM.

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We are putting our names and "together with their parents" cordially invite you....

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We are not, because we are paying for the wedding ourselves.

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We are paying for the wedding ourselves (our choice--my parents were willing ot pay for it), but both set of parents are giving us a significant amount of money. So--I did include both set of parents on the invites.

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We are not, they are not contributing $$ towards this wedding at all, not even the RD.

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We put , "together with their parents, bride and groom...."

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We did "Together with their Families" since we are all helping to pay for the wedding

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I just found out I have very little choice in this. The tradition is.. his family is announced as well as mine. Going so far as to use his mother's maiden Family Name as well as mine. (bet my stepmonster will love that).

We are taking his father's name off. Or we're trying to, but it would look strange to have one on his side and two on mine.

They go so far as to ask how many siblings we have and where we are amongst the kin. Jim is the oldest, Im the youngest.

*shrug*

Who knew getting invites was going to get so complicated!?

Message edited 11/13/2003 12:19:10 PM.